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Teaching Your Child To Share

Teresa, The CuteKid™ Staff

Sharing is a concept that children have to learn. For most children it is difficult for them to see their possessions in the hands of another. I remember one of the first words my youngest child learned was "mine" and she used it frequently. teaching child to share is difficult because children do not understand that if someone uses their toy it is still theirs. In their mind the other child is taking the toy and it will no longer be theirs. So we have to teach them and help them understand that sharing a toy does not mean giving, just lending it for a little while.

Teaching to share can seem like an impossible task. It is one of constant reminding. Toddlers often play side by side instead of together. So having a variety of the same type of toys helps reduce the amount of fighting. You can also put out toys that can be played with cooperatively like blocks or play dishes and food.

Often you can eliminate problems by buying more than one of the same items. My girls are only nineteen months apart in age. They like many of the same things. So I try and buy two of the same type of items for Christmas and even sometimes birthdays. Recently my daughter received two Disney princess dolls for her birthday. Because I knew that her sister would want one to play with too.

When your preschool age child has a play-date have them pick out five to six toys that they are willing to share. Then discuss how they have to let their friend play with those toys. Then put the rest away. This way your child feels that they have some control over the situation. If problems arise simply remind your child that they picked which toys to share and agreed that they would. At this age children are also old enough to understand that when the other child goes home they will still have their toys.

Of course there will be fights. You can try a variety of methods. Simply take the toy away from both children and explain that since they can't share they will both have to find something else to play with. I have also set a timer and then when the buzzer dings the other child gets to play with the toy. For younger children I often distract them with another toy that is similar or different.

There are a few toys that I do not require my children to share. They each have a special stuffed animal and blanket that they sleep with and treasure. I never require them to share them with their siblings or friends.

My girls are four and three and there are moments where they fight over the same toy and have a hard time sharing. Then there are the moments I treasure when one will say to the other, "It's okay. You can play with it."

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Good Friendship, Bad Friendship Characteristics

by Teresa, The CuteKid™ Staff

For most children friendships are a vital part of life. As children transition to being a teenager friends become even more important. Who your child's friends are often determines the choices they make. Friends can have a great influence upon their behavior. Of course as parents we want our children to make good friendship, friends that will influence them positively. But what exactly constitutes a good friendship or bad friendship?

It isn't always easy to tell if your child is in a bad friendship. And it's even harder for your child to recognize and realize that a friendship is not good. Here are some warning signs from The Girl's and Boy's Town that can help identify when a friendship is not positive.

The bad friend:

  • always wants things done their own way.
  • is jealous of any other relationships or friendships your child has.
  • is critical of your child and of others.
  • doesn't give your child any space and always wants to be with them.
  • acts like they are better than your child in some way.
  • may lie to your child and others.
  • encourages your child to make bad choices.
  • has different values than your child.
  • uses your child.

On the flip side good friends act differently.

The good friend:

  • respects your child's opinion.
  • has their own interests outside of your child.
  • acts like they and your child are equals.
  • is honest with your child and others.
  • doesn�t criticize.
  • supports your child in their activities.
  • has similar interests.
  • has similar values.

If you believe that your child is involved in a bad friendship help them evaluate the friendship by asking them questions like:

  • Does your friend make you feel good?
  • Do you ever wonder if your friend says bad things about you behind your back?
  • Does your friend ever ask you to do things that you are uncomfortable with?
  • Does your friend make you feel like you are not as good as they are?
  • Does your friend not like it when you hang out with other people?
  • Does your friend ask you to contribute more to the relationship?
  • Does your friendship make you feel safe and comfortable?

By asking your child these questions you can get them thinking about the friendship and if it is really a positive thing in their life. You can't force your child to drop a friend just because you feel it is negative. In fact telling your child that you don't like a certain friend can backfire. But you can ask your child questions to get them thinking about the friendship and the qualities that a good friend has.

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Bragging and Showing Off

by Teresa, The CuteKid™ Staff

At a young age children learn to say, "Look at me" or "Watch me." Many love to have an adult's attention. I stood behind a man and his four-year-old daughter when I was waiting to vote. She immediately introduced herself to me. Then she proceeded to do somersaults and cartwheels on the grass while calling "Watch me." But at what point does a child's showing off turn into a problem?

When children are young they tend to tolerate other children's showing off. They either ignore the behavior or gather around the child showing off. As a parent we encourage our young children to be proud of their accomplishments. The first time my daughter peed in the potty I had her call her dad and grandma to receive their praise. According to Dr. Marvin Berkowitz, a professor character education, boasting among preschoolers is healthy.
"One of the most important tasks for a child is to develop a sense of herself as a causal agent -- that she is successful and can make things happen.�

Children are told by their parents that they can do things and they accept the fact. They are also more than willing to tell anyone that will listen that they can count to 10, shoot a basket, or know their full name. They don�t understand that they might hurt someone else�s feelings by celebrating their own accomplishments.

Experts say that it is fine to let your child express delight in their own accomplishments, as long as they aren�t doing so because they feel pleasure in being able to do something better than someone else. Your response as a parent can help teach your child to be sensitive to other children�s feelings.

As they get older their reasons for child�s bragging change as well. If a child is showing off significantly more than her peers it may mean that she doesn�t get enough approval from her parents. So she boasts about herself to feel valued. Some children may brag about themselves because they are unsure of themselves and want to be accepted. On the other hand it could mean that the child receives too much praise and feels that boasting about herself is just fine.

But as children grow they need to learn that constantly bragging and showing off are no longer acceptable. Children will ignore and dislike those that are constantly boasting about their own skills and showing off the things that they can do.

As a parent you can help a child that has a habit of boasting by increasing their self-confidence. Help them realize that they do have worth independent of what anyone else thinks. Praising your child in private will help him realize that he does not need to boast of his own accomplishments. Point out how their bragging might hurt other children's feelings. You might try role-playing with your child with you doing the bragging so he can understand how his bragging appears to others.

Bragging is something that most children engage in, but as they get older it is important that they understand that bragging and showing off are not appropriate

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Teaching Your Kids How to Make Friends
by Jean Tracy, MSS
Is your child lonely, sad, or angry? Would you like to teach your child how to make friends? If you don’t know how, I’ll share the secrets here.

First you need to know that research tells us the average child spends 25 hours in front of the TV each week.TV characters become their “friends” and their role models.

Speaking about role models, I remember teaching a new class of first graders. Everyone, except two little boys, was sitting tall in anticipation of story time. The two boys were rolling around slugging it out on the floor in the back of the room.

“Boys, what are you doing,” I asked. “We’re fighting. He’s Tom and I’m Jerry. You know, in the cartoon,” said the boy on top. “Don’t worry,” said the other. We do this all the time.”

Parenting Tip - Why These Kids Don’t Have Friends

Years later, as a child and family counselor, parents brought me their sad, angry and lonely kids.

These kids had one thing in common, “Nobody liked them. They had no friends.” They didn’t know how to make friends either. I’d ask them how they spent their time. “TV,” they’d answer.

I worried about these kids.

One day, while at my in-laws, I shuffled through their bookcase and picked out a book that opened my eyes. Suddenly, I knew how to help these kids. Can you guess which book?

“How to Win Friends and Influence People”

It was Dale Carnegie’s “How to Win Friends and Influence People.” I knew I could bring these social skills down to a child’s level. I knew I could help parents teach the ideas in this book to their kids

But some parents said, “I don’t have time,” until I asked them, “Do you take your kids to games, music lessons, and doctor appointments? Do you eat dinner together? Do you put your kids to bed at night? Because if you do, you may have more time than you think.” So, parents, how do you teach social skills?

Parenting Tip - Role Play Social Skills with Kids

Yes, you role play. You and your child practice acting out a scene with a social skill your child needs to learn. Your child becomes the youngster he wants as a friend. Then switch roles. Do this several times.

Parenting Tip - Use Charts to Help Your Kids Make Friends

Make a chart with the social skill he’s learning. At the top it might say, “My goal is to practice smiling and being upbeat with everyone I see.” Give your child a star each time he tells you how he was friendly.

Each week teach your child a new social skill. Role play it at home. Tell your child, “Practice at school, in the neighborhood, and at sports practices." Add his new social skill to his chart too.

Can you see how simple it is to role play? Can you see role playing a social skill in the car, at dinner, or at bedtime? Can you imagine how happy your child will feel making friends?

Conclusion for Teaching Your Kids How to Make Friends

Start teaching social skills today. Practice them yourself. If you do, you’ll raise a friendly child and you’ll enjoy being friendlier too.

Author's Bio
Jean Tracy, MSS, invites you to receive 80 Fun Activities to Share with Your Kids when you subscribe to her parenting newsletter at

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